The AOYS Power 13
#10 Create and Enforce Boundaries
Why do we need Boundaries?
Personal Boundaries are important because they set the basic guidelines of how you want to be treated. Setting boundaries can ensure that relationships can be mutually respectful, appropriate, and caring.
Even before 2020 our work boundaries started getting away from us when we started putting email and texting on our phones so our employers could reach us anytime and we answered. In 2020 when we all came home to work we no longer had a work day stopping point. . We thought well we can work a little longer, no commute or we are home working through lunch.
Healthy Boundaries look like:
Valuing your own opinion
Effectively communicating what you need/want Clearly
Saying no with no regrets or explanation
Accepting No from others
Being able to identify and address when a boundary has been broken
Do any of you need to set better boundaries with your family?
Work? Where else do you need better boundaries? Phone, email. Who has been successful at creating boundaries?
HOW DO YOU SET BOUNDARIES
~Identify the behaviors that acceptable to you and what is causing issues
~Clearly communicate your boundaries with others. Remain confident, respectful and assertive
~Decide what to do if someone breaks a boundary. This can mean a tough discussion, taking time away or ending a relationship all together.
In Our Support Groups:
We did a boundaries visualization to get started this week. It was a eye opener for many of us. We all wrote down the people who demand our time. How people might benefit from creating boundaries and where they needed to start. It was a strong, important topic and the feedback was amazing.
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Progress Not Perfection
Marlene and Sally